Defeating the burnout epidemic that’s crushing
working parents through the Whole SELF Lifestyle™
INTEGRATE THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™ INTO YOUR LIFE AS A WORKING PARENT
INTEGRATE THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™ INTO YOUR COMPANY, GROUP OR EVENT
LIFE ISN’T MEANT TO BE SURVIVED. LIFE IS MEANT TO BE AN ADVENTURE AS YOU BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
There’s an epidemic of burnout culture in modern society, and it’s hitting working parents the hardest. An unprecedented number of professional moms and dads are overwhelmed and struggling to survive in just about every area of their lives. They’re often forced to sacrifice valuable time with their families, their hard-earned careers, or their personal well-being (usually all three), because they just can’t find a sustainable way to navigate the competing demands of work, family, and life. With twenty years of experience in areas such as psychotherapy, professional coaching, mediation, teaching, and complex project management, I’ve developed the Whole SELF Lifestyle™ to guide working parents out of survival mode and toward a life they’ll actually enjoy.
WHAT IS THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™
YOUR EXTERNAL WORLD
As working parents, we’re juggling constant demands and pressure from the outside world. Being in reaction mode against all of these different areas of our lives (I call them “systems”) can make us feel scattered, stretched thin, depleted, and resentful. I often hear working parents using these phrases to describe their experience trying to stay on top of everything: I don’t have enough time. Balance isn’t possible. I never have enough energy. I’m drowning. I can’t keep up. I’m failing at everything. My to-do list is a mile long. I’m crazy-busy. I’ll take care of myself when things slow down. Many of the obligations we’re dealing with really are important. We can’t just ignore them. But others could potentially be put on the back burner for a while. Until you take the time to evaluate everything that’s coming at you from the outside world, it’ll be hard to make informed decisions about which areas to focus on in each moment. I help working parents integrate all of the different areas of their lives into one functioning whole so they are the ones in control of their lives, and life isn’t pushing them around anymore.
YOUR INTERNAL WORLD
Becoming a parent has a way of shattering everything we thought we knew about ourselves. Our identity goes through a transformation, a deepening. We let go of old parts of ourselves (also called “systems”). We take on new roles in our relationships and our lives. We start to understand ourselves in different ways. We’re faced with all sorts of new circumstances, which require new skills and perspectives to work through. We try to integrate who we used to be with who we are becoming. But so many working parents are too busy to really explore this shifting identity in any useful way. Our sense of self is constantly changing depending on what we do, and isn’t understood deeply enough to guide our choices, behavior or beliefs. When we’re not clear about our inside world, we becoming increasingly persuaded by outside influences. We rely on experts and “gurus” and opinions of friends and family. This leads to losing trust to do what’s best for ourselves, our families, and our future. We’re living from the outside in, which is backwards. I often hear working parents use the phrases: I don’t know who I am anymore. I’ve lost myself. I miss who I used to be. I don’t know what to do. I feel so guilty. I’m unhappy. There’s got to be more to life than this. When this happens, it’s easy to find ourselves living out other people’s agendas and values, rather than our own. This is what makes life as a working parent feel like a grind, like an endless loop of non-stop responsibilities. I help working parents go through a process of self-discovery that honors the different parts of who they are so they can approach every situation they encounter with a solid sense of SELF, and the peace of mind that the choices they make are what’s right for them.
BLENDING YOUR EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL WORLDS
Creating a fulfilling life is not a destination. It’s not an outcome. It’s not something to achieve. It’s a practice. It’s an ongoing discipline. It’s a way of being in the world. It will fluctuate. Some days we’ll be better at it than others. But as long as we get clear about who we really are, and keep our intentions in the front of our mind, all of the demands of our daily lives won’t pull us off track as easily. And when we do get pulled off track, we can course-correct quickly. The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is a way of exploring our old, unconscious patterns of behavior, understanding them on a deeper level, and making healthier choices going forward. It’s a way to up-level the baseline of our thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, choices, actions, behaviors, and experiences. Over time, we gradually improve both our life both internally and externally. I help working parents replace the constant searching for answers outside of themselves, with a reliable and repeatable framework that will support them in discovering the right answers, for them, in this season of their lives from within so they can finally enjoy these precious years.