Defeating the burnout epidemic that’s crushing
working parents through the Whole SELF Lifestyle™
INTEGRATE THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™ INTO YOUR LIFE AS A WORKING PARENT
INTEGRATE THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™ INTO YOUR COMPANY, GROUP OR EVENT
LIFE ISN’T MEANT TO BE SURVIVED. LIFE IS MEANT TO BE AN ADVENTURE AS YOU BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
There’s an epidemic of burnout culture in modern society, and it’s hitting working parents the hardest. An unprecedented number of professional moms and dads are overwhelmed and struggling to survive in just about every area of their lives. They’re often forced to sacrifice valuable time with their families, their hard-earned careers, or their personal well-being (usually all three), because they just can’t find a sustainable way to navigate the competing demands of work, family, and life. With twenty years of experience in areas such as psychotherapy, professional coaching, mediation, teaching, and complex project management, I’ve developed the Whole SELF Lifestyle™ to guide working parents out of survival mode and toward a life they’ll actually enjoy.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is a philosophy and a practical framework to help working parents address the logistical and psychological challenges they face as they try to blend work, family, and life in general. It gives working parents a personalized roadmap to improve essential areas of their life.
As working parents, we’re juggling constant demands and pressure from the outside world. Being in reaction mode against all of these different areas of our lives can make us feel scattered, stretched thin, depleted, and resentful. I often hear working parents using these phrases to describe their experience trying to stay on top of everything:
- I don’t have enough time.
- Balance isn’t possible.
- I never have enough energy.
- I’m drowning.
- I can’t keep up.
- I’m failing at everything.
- My to-do list is a mile long.
- I’m crazy-busy.
- I’ll take care of myself when things slow down.
Many of the obligations we’re dealing with really are important. We can’t just ignore them. But others could potentially be put on the back burner for a while. Until you take the time to evaluate everything that’s coming at you from the outside world, it’ll be hard to make informed decisions about which areas to focus on in each moment.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ helps working parents integrate all of the different areas of their lives into one functioning whole so they are the ones in control of their lives.
Becoming a parent has a way of shattering everything we thought we knew about ourselves. Our identity goes through a transformation, a deepening. We let go of old parts of ourselves. We take on new roles in our relationships and our lives. We start to understand ourselves in different ways. We’re faced with all sorts of new circumstances, which require new skills and perspectives to work through. We try to integrate who we used to be with who we are becoming. I often hear working parents use phrases like:
- I don’t know who I am anymore.
- I’ve lost myself.
- I miss who I used to be.
- I don’t know what to do.
- I feel so guilty.
- There’s got to be more to life than this.
So many working parents are too busy to explore their shifting identity in any useful way. Our sense of self is constantly changing and often depends on what we do instead of who we are. When we’re not clear about our inside world, we become increasingly persuaded by outside influences. We rely on experts and “gurus” and opinions of friends and family. This leads to losing trust to do what’s best for ourselves, our families, and our future. When this happens, it’s easy to find ourselves living out other people’s agendas and values, rather than our own.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ helps working parents go through a process of self-discovery that honors the different parts of who they are so they can approach every situation they encounter with a solid sense of SELF. It gives working parents the peace of mind that the choices they make are what’s right for them.
Creating a fulfilling life is not a destination. It’s not an outcome. It’s not something to achieve. It’s a practice. It’s an ongoing discipline. It’s a way ofbeing in the world. It will fluctuate. Some days we’ll be better at it than others. But as long as we get clear about who we really are, and keep our intentions in the front of our mind, all of the demands of our daily lives won’t pull us off track as easily. And when we do get pulled off track, we can course-correct quickly.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is a way of exploring our old, unconscious patterns of behavior, understanding them on a deeper level, and making healthier choices going forward. It’s a way to up-level the baseline of our thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, choices, actions, behaviors, and experiences. Over time, we gradually improve both our life both internally and externally.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ helps working parents replace the constant searching for answers outside of themselves, with a reliable and repeatable framework that will support them in discovering theright answers, for them, in this season of their lives from within so they can finally enjoy these precious years.