THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™ METHOD
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ Method is a philosophy and a practical framework I’ve developed over the last twenty years to help working parents address the logistical and psychological challenges they face as they try to blend work, family, and life in general. It gives working parents a personalized roadmap to defeat burnout and escape survival mode for good.
Integrate all areas of your life into one functioning whole.
As working parents, we’re juggling constant demands and pressure from the outside world. Being in reaction mode against all of these different areas of our lives can make us feel scattered, stretched thin, depleted, and resentful. Many of the obligations we’re dealing with really are important. We can’t just ignore them. But others could potentially be put on the back burner for a while. Until you take the time to evaluate everything that’s coming at you from the outside world, it’ll be hard to make informed decisions about which areas to focus on in each moment.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ Method helps working parents integrate all of the different areas of their lives into one functioning whole so they are the ones in control of their lives.
Honor the unique parts of who you are, so you can approach your life from a solid sense of self.
Becoming a parent has a way of shattering everything we thought we knew about ourselves. Our identity goes through a transformation, a deepening. We let go of old parts of ourselves. We take on new roles in our relationships and our lives. We start to understand ourselves in different ways. We’re faced with all sorts of new circumstances, which require new skills and perspectives to work through. We try to integrate who we used to be with who we are becoming. So many working parents are too busy to explore their shifting identity in any useful way. Our sense of self is constantly changing and often depends on what we do instead of who we are.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ Method helps working parents go through a process of self-discovery that honors the different parts of who they are so they can approach every situation they encounter with a solid sense of SELF. It gives working parents the peace of mind that the choices they make are what’s right for them.
Avoid quick-fix traps, and establish a long-term practice that leads to a fulfilling lifestyle.
Creating a fulfilling life is not a destination. It’s not an outcome. It’s not something to achieve. It’s a practice. It’s an ongoing discipline. It’s a way of being in the world. It will fluctuate. Some days we’ll be better at it than others. But as long as we get clear about who we really are, and keep our intentions in the front of our mind, all of the demands of our daily lives won’t pull us off track as easily. And when we do get pulled off track, we can course-correct quickly. The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is a way of exploring our old, unconscious patterns of behavior, understanding them on a deeper level so we can making healthier choices going forward. It’s a way to up-level the baseline of our thoughts, beliefs, perspectives, choices, actions, behaviors, and experiences. Over time, we gradually improve both our life both internally and externally.
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ Method helps working parents replace the constant searching for answers outside of themselves, with a reliable and repeatable framework that will support them in discovering the right answers, for them, in this season of their lives from within so they can finally enjoy these precious years.
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THE WHOLE SELF LIFESTYLE™ METHOD
The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is an approach to life as a working parent. It’s a higher-level guide to help you understand not only the surface-level symptoms you’re feeling, but also the true source of your struggles within the context of a larger system. Once you have that deeper understanding, you can make more effective choices based on what you need in each moment.
We use the acronym S.E.L.F. to break down this philosophy into practice, what I call the Whole SELF Lifestyle™ Method. This framework guides busy working parents through four specific stages of self-discovery, so they can improve and blend all of the most important areas of their lives.
(S) SYSTEM INVENTORY
Take a snapshot of the internal and external demands in your life right now.
Analyze what areas of your life are working for you, and which aren’t. Identify where to focus your time, energy, and attention.
(L) LIST OF SOLUTIONS
Brainstorm targeted action steps to make improvements in your life.
Experiment, refine, and integrate what works into your daily life. Let go of what isn’t helping.