I’m a working mom myself, so I know exactly what it’s like to feel resentful because I’m required to work crazy hours in a demanding career, struggle with guilt because I barely have any time with my kids after a long day at the office, and to bicker with my husband because we’re both too exhausted to prioritize our relationship. It’s no fun, and there were times early in my parenting experience when I had no idea how I was going to get through it.

I realized early on that I didn’t want my life as an ambitious mom to be defined by stress, frustration, and guilt. I wanted to enjoy it.

Leaving my career wasn’t an option, so I needed to find a solution…. and fast. I began to devour as much as I could about raising a family while balancing a rewarding but demanding career. I found plenty of information out there, but none of it was an exact fit for my unique life.

That experience kicked off a six-year journey to finding a reliable and sustainable solution to defeat the burnout epidemic that’s taken over most of our lives. What I discovered is that the issues facing working parents are all very complex, but most of the advice out there is simple, one-sized-fits-all, and designed to provide instant relief to surface-level problems.

In order to truly overcome burnout, it’ll require big shifts in how we operate as individuals, as families, and as a global society. Over the years, I’ve been refining a philosophy as well as a framework busy working parents can integrate into their lives, so they can explore and honor who they are right now.

The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is the result of evaluating the burnout problem from every angle, and then applying two decades worth of experience in psychotherapy, professional coaching, mediation, teaching, and project management to develop a long-term solution for working parents. We’re all unique human beings, and we’re not all going to follow the same path toward a happy and healthy life. We don’t need the same solutions as our partner or our best friend or our colleague. We don’t need the same advice. We need the right advice, for us, in this moment. Here at The Argenal Institute, that’s what I’m dedicated to helping you discover for yourself.


  • DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME | You struggle to get through your endless to-do list every day, but can’t keep up. You want to have more fun, laugh with your loved ones, and engage in activities that feel meaningful again.

  • YOU FEEL DEPLETED | You’re in constant motion, and you can’t slow down enough to catch a breath. You’re exhausted. You want to re-claim that feeling of lightness and positive energy you used to have.

  • YOUR MARRIAGE IS SUFFERING | You and your spouse miss each other. Your relationship mostly consists of handling family logistics, bickering about chores, or sitting next to each other on the couch while you binge Netflix and stare at your phones. You want to prioritize fun, romance, and quality time together again.

  • YOUR FEEL LIKE YOU’RE MISSING THOSE PRECIOUS CHILDHOOD YEARS WITH YOUR KIDS | You know you don’t need to be with your children every second of the day, but you’re distracted, cranky or impatient when you’re with them. You want to be more present and have more fun with your kids while they’re still little.

  • YOUR IDENTITY USED TO REVOLVE AROUND YOUR CAREER. NOW YOU’RE NOT SURE WHO YOU ARE ANYMORE | You used to feel confident, productive, and on top of things. Now that you’re a parent, you’re wondering, Who Am I? How do I reconcile who I used to be, with who I am becoming? You want to feel centered and whole, but you’re just not sure how.

You don’t have to give up what matters most to you when you become a working parent: your family, your career, your hobbies, your time and energy, your identity….  You just need to learn how to integrate all aspects of your life in a way that works best for you in this season of your life.


The Whole SELF Lifestyle™ is an approach to life as a working parent. It’s not a solution in and of itself. It’s sort of a higher-level guide to help you understand not only the surface-level symptoms you’re feeling, but also the true source of your struggles within the context of a larger system.

Once you have that deeper understanding of your life as a whole, you can make more effective choices based on what you need in each moment. I wholeheartedly believe each person needs to chart their own, individual path toward a fulfilling life. This approach is about creating a lifestyle that works for you, and gives you the freedom to acknowledge, accept, and work with your unique strengths, needs, desires, circumstances and goals.

 This is about understanding yourself on deeper and deeper levels over time, and then living from that solid center of self-knowingness. It’s not about any particular answer or quick fix. And since you’re a busy working parent, it’s important to do this in a way that isn’t overwhelming or intimidating. You need a flexible framework that can work within the various constraints of your life.

We don’t see fulfillment as a zero-sum game. We see it as a complex system that you as the individual can analyze and refine. We honor the unique lives of every working parent, and we avoid trying to apply one-size-fits-all or quick-fix solutions to complex problems. We’re much more interested in the nuance of the messy middle inherent in growth, and the complexity of the bigger picture.